The Art Of Letting Go…

dog in suitcaseWho of us have never gone through the experience of making major changes in our life? There are the many fears and doubts, along with questions like how, what, why now, is it the right time? 

Change is a constant in life, we develop physically early on from a very miniscule cell into various sizes and shapes as a human being. Our psyche develops into a personality filled with likes, dislikes and beliefs. It is often the belief system that causes us to limit how we accept change and any different circumstances necessary in our life for progression.

Is there really a formula for letting go and accepting new things? Sure is! And yes I am going to share them with you briefly. Whether it is a new job, relationship end, or departure of a loved one remembering the stages of letting go can help you move forward.

The thought of my adult son growing up and moving away to start his life presented mixed emotions. I have read about empty nesters and the “parties” they threw in celebration of adult children leaving home for the final time. They revel in the celebration of no more college payments, their auto insurance premiums returning to the earth’s atmosphere and you actually get to shut down the laundry service you have operated for umpteen years! When the day came I found myself sad, avoiding the thought and the ever present thought am I ready to let go?

So where do we begin? The list below is the formula:

  1.  First you decide it is time to start a new.
  2. Acceptance and acknowledging any discomfort changes will cause
  3. Don’t be a “blamer” it clouds your judgement and keeps you stuck
  4. Don’t hide from life
  5. Focus on the present look for joy in life
  6. Forgive yourself

The art of letting go is achieved through the practice of prescribed thoughts and behaviors  until becoming an acquired skill for use over and over again in life events. Maintaining spiritual balance and belief in positivity once the six stages are complete is the daily affirmation that change is not an end but a beginning.

Thank you to all  for taking time to read the blogs authored by me the ghost blogger for ISG. It has been my great privilege to share my thoughts, knowledge on wellness and encouragement along with humor with you. As I move to my next challenge the words above could not be more true. On to my new beginning and see you on the web! Thank you ISG for giving me the opportunity to write for you.

VG

Fathers Angsts…

Well beautiful people it’s that time again, time to celebrate dear old dad and all we do!  I am not going to resist the urge to use some of those socks for father dayage-old jokes related to father’s day gifts. For instance, the one billionth tie or pair of socks I’ve received still gives me the elation of number one. Remember too they were not only gifted  only for father’s day but Christmas, birthday etcetera.

 

Had I become a mathematician I certainly would have truly  loved to compute the sum total of socks, ties, hardware store gift cards, sporting goods, tools, belts, saws, nail guns, hair removal tools, for use in hair removal from areas in the oddest of places. Who can forget soap on a rope, body oils, cologne, shaving kits and the like? Then there are the meals, breakfast, lunches, dinner, BBQ’s yep lots and lots of food! dad rocks father pic

When our children our young we are blessed with their creativity delivered straight from the heart in the purest expressions of their love through beautiful lumps of clay handprints or the universal ashtrays, heart shapes just endless, paper mache whatchamabobs, portraits of dear old dad or my body parts laid out in macaroni on a plate. Even framed portraits of colorful construction paper in a cut out “likeness” image of me, pipe cleaner masterpieces rivaled only by the great pyramid builders or  other artisans! Then the new wears off, and the onslaught of gift cards take-over with help from the other parent. Such lovelies as lawn mower attachments, new hammers with lovely fluffy ribbons, and the promise of “this is your day Dad!” I’m supposed to believe this day is for my rejuvenation?

Uh hmmfather's day gift card picm never have I witnessed a saw, saw by itself, or wall paper take itself down or even a drill sink a screw alone! Yes folks we have been sold a dream. Power tools and hardware gift cards do not say rest and relaxation at all! Then there are the, “you are great dad,” gifts that somehow still involve movement formally referred to as exercise! You guessed it,  work out gear, sneakers that say running, free weights that say lift me, work out videos because great now means I’m as big as a table saw from all the lunches and in need of reduction, remodeling, renovation or just plain old work.

Dear old dad continually is in quest for his easy chair, which by the way no one has ever seen it fit to gift me EVER. Yes dads we are the glue, the back bone of our little broods and the “yard man”, “fix it guy,” “pro athlete” and we would not have it any other way! It’s great to be needed and loved, a sock could never have meant more ever. Happy Father’s to all of you fortunate enough to receive socks and power tools!

Imani’s Secret Garden is a natural products company with loads of great gifts for any occasion. Visit us at www.imanissecretgarden.vpweb.com. Imani is a proud dad and grand-dad wishing you all wellness, love and happiness on this Father’s Day!

IMANI

Notorious

Here we go… What does the word notorious, you know the word up there ^, conjure up in your psyche’?

For me phrases like, “she/he is notorious for doing….they are notoriously coming up ….all negative. I had to challenge myself to re-acquaint ‘me’ with the word in the positive.  The definition of the word  is, ‘generally known and talked of’. What causes a person or circumstance to fit this conundrum? I use that word because you have to perform some pretty amazing feats of behavior to be well-known for it AND widely talked about. Clearly, problematic or inflammatory in some sort of fashion.

Well I would like to be well-known as humorous, tall thin, good-looking! Maybe a great cook, or gardener that is good looking, tall and thin. How about an excellent writer/blogger that is tall, thin, execellent cook, humorous and really really good looking?

I see a theme emerging. The really good-looking part? No, too obvious. More like the humorous wannabe I am too striving for. To be well-known as a person quick to talk about humor, joys of life would be a great rep I’d gladly cop. Hmm this word has all types of shady adjectives (smiling to myself) conflicting with my attempt to convey my new association with Notoriousness as  becoming positive. I bet when you saw the word you thought of gangsters and all that is associated with them.  Descriptive words like cop, rep solidify this ideal. This may prove to be more difficult than first imagined.

I may have to settle for a blog that becomes notoriously negative on attempting to be positively notorious.

Signed by our ghost writer for Imani’s Secret Garden, VG. ISG is a business committed to life, love, and wellness ( https://squareup.com/store/imanis-secret-garden ). Our ghost writer hopes you had a great laugh and that they will become what they dream of….

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* BREATHE WELL AND LIVE WELL

Breathe well and you will find your Middle Ground. I love to breathe! Its what attracted me to yoga and keeps me passionate about how yoga and mindfulness can transform us. Without breathing fully, our yoga practice becomes simply a workout. Rather than calming the mind and soothing the body it can have the opposite […]

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10 ALL-NATURAL WAYS TO IMPROVE YOUR BLOOD PRESSURE

Perhaps you’ve been told you have “high blood pressure.” Or maybe you checked it yourself one day and noticed that it was 146/90. What now? Today I will discuss some ways in which you can improve your own blood pressure without taking medications. But before I do, let’s first answer an important question: What is hypertension and what’s the big deal?…

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What Does Normal Mean For You?

Scenario: You go into the medical office with health complaints. The practitioner orders lab tests, and prescribes medical treatment based on your results. Some of your complaints continue. But all your labs values are “normal,” how can that be? Who determines “normal,” and what exactly does that mean?

You will be surprised to learn that lab value normals are established independently of individual exams but through most laboratories establishing their reference ranges from a large population of people where detailed information on health status, stage of life (premenopausal vs. postmenopausal), and medications and hormones used is unknown, and therefore not taken into account. So is YOUR “normal” the real normal? Shocking isn’t it?

Wellness medicine is the new, old frontier. Practitioners can now integrate diagnostic tools with “old world” remedies and knowledge of natural medicine, combining this with nutritional counseling and herb therapy. The results are amazing in maintaining healthy bodies!

Natural medicine practice is at the basis that your normal is your normal. Testing involves most often saliva sampling at different intervals, muscle electro energy testing for evaluating how the body manages stress as opposed to looking at just deficiencies in blood or urine. Meaning the deficiencies present are not necessarily the beginning and end of the “dis-ease” of the body but a part of the full picture.

One example is the body’s use of hormones. Women’s bodies need progesterone for the mind to focus and calm anxiety. Post menopausal women naturally have lower levels and post hysterectomy (ovary and uterus removal) women have nearly none. It is common to see pre and post menopausal women prescribed drugs to calm anxiety, insomnia and depression. The current western medicine supports this because hormone levels in the blood are low and modern medicine is aware of changes in the reproductive cycle with aging thus supplement the deficiency only . But what if the horomone was replaced, or balanced naturally allowing the body to heal itself? This is possible with the guidance of a skilled practitioner and nutritional counseling, along with your willingness to determine what is right for your body type. There are varied responses to herbs and lifestyle changes requiring individual buy-in to ensure you receive the full benefit of returning your body to good health. Now we are encouraging you to do the research to find a practitioner and begin the conversation as to how you can use the earth to be healthier. To our example of hormonal changes in women, avoiding foods and herbs that increase estrogen production in your body is one simple way to balance low progesterone, there are many others.

The emergence of nutraceuticals is also a great way of balancing the body. It is interesting to note that each blood type has been proven to process nutrients differently. I told my mom that beets and me just were not compatible…thank goodness she knew best and ignored the manipulation of a kid not wanting to eat their vegetables. But, seriously, there are specifics that a reputatable wellness healthcare practitioner, or integrated medical professional can guide you through. So don’t be content with “normal” lab values and ranges not based on your specific body type and health needs. Seek more intimate knowledge about your body’s needs beyond deficiencies. By taking the integrated medical approach you will find balance and YOUR NORMAL!

Imani’s Secret Garden is a natural product line of essential oils, body oils moisturizers and so much more. (www.imanissecretgarden.vpweb.com) We are necessary because what we put on our bodies is as important as what we put in them. Thank you for reading, visit us today!

IMANI

 

 

Some Is Always >Than None?

Do you remember as you grew older from your childhood you promised yourself how you would do this or that? But the closer we grow to maturity some things morph and others just fall away!

Exercise, completion of secondary education and beyond, even finding the perfect relationship lose steam for some of us. It seems that at some point we all recon with, “well ‘this’ is enough.” Our weight becomes OK where it is. Pursuit of higher education, a better career with more responsibility sidelines best made plans of progression toward more. Even the dreams of procreation for some transforms into become a great-aunt or mentor to an unrelated younger person.  Promises of maintaining health and our youthful bodies get lost in the sofa.

Once we recover from the guilt, shaming and other emotional penance we tend to ascribe to our lives, hopefully we come out onto the other side intact and at peace with what we can do better to achieve some form of progress in life. This attitude in opposition to focusing on how we fell short, missing the mark keeps the progress train moving forward.

Years ago I had the experience of attempting to shed weight. The plan was to eliminate all animal fat, processed sugar, and to implement a rigorous weight lifting plan rounded out by resuming my passion for cycling.

I started out of the proverbial gate like a dude on a mission. Eating my breakfast, power meal, fruit smoothie, meditation before work, bike ride to work and on with my day. As the weeks unfolded the motivation began to wane. Once confronted with the realities of family responsibility, stressors of work and my own desire to complete my lofty assigned goals weakened.

The occasional fresh-baked cookie or other sugar laden goods permeating the air around me distracted me from my once vigorous unequivocal resolve. These intruders taking root in my olfactory center  causing battling for my mind and planting doubt toward my success of my reaching my goal. Thoughts like you rode five miles today, what is a little cookie? You deserve it. Why not drive the automobile? You have kept up this journey, and deserve a day of malingering. I had began to fall out of balance.

Something  became better than nothing! Then it occurred to me. If my olfactory system is powerful enough to shift my focus with the smell of baked goods, what would deliberate stimulus with essential oils produce? I found out! Using lavender with my morning meditation for relaxation and focus helps me surmount the next challenge, mindless eating from impulse. Adding peppermint drops to my wrist, lava bracelet, and or showering with peppermint soap also quells the desire for nervous eating, specifically sugar cravings. I began to center myself again seeking to achieve more as my balance is restored.

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Perspective is a wonderful thing. “A little Bit Of Soap,” by The Jarmels song lyrics was not enough to wash away the pain and memory of a broken heart. On the other hand The Archies lyrics of “Sugar Sugar” confirms the addictive nature of sugar, and its promises of “making your life so sweet!” In both instances “some” is problematic. Either too much in one scenario and not enough in the other.

Life dictates balance as the answer to sustained good stable health. Sugar is necessary for muscle use and energy production. But the natural unprocessed sugar suits our mind and bodies best. Cosmetics, and hygiene products also play a role in good health, herbs, other botanicals enter our body through our skin. A little bit of toxins can have an adverse effect on our general health. So in this instance some is not better than none!

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Never settle for some peace or fragments of balanced health. Go for great health. In trying to acheive balance the very beneficial side effects are we tend to be healthier than had we not tried at all. In this instance some is always better than none. Be Well!

IMANI